Brainy Dose Presents:
16 Psychologically Proven Flirting Strategies
Flirting is basically the art of showing your
interest for someone in a playful, fun way.
What separates a pro from a beginner, is the
ability to indicate one’s desire while maintaining
an air of mystery.
For some people, flirting comes naturally;
for others, not so much.
But that’s okay, because anyone can improve
their flirting skills.
It’s never too late to step up your game!
Knowing how to flirt can mean the difference
between creeping someone out, and actually
getting a date with them.
And the best thing about flirting is that
you don’t need to look like a supermodel
in order to be successful at it.
You just have to know how to act - and when
Here are some simple tips to help you get
started - so you can flirt like a pro in no
Number 1 - Flaunt Your Best Features
It takes only a few seconds to make a first
When you meet someone for the first time,
they immediately pick up cues about you - both
consciously and subconsciously.
It’s important that you present yourself
in a way you want to be perceived by others.
You can look and feel more confident by carefully
choosing an attire that accentuates your most
For instance, if you’re a man who has broad
shoulders and a slim waist, wear a nice fitted
If you’re a woman, and your best features
are your legs, show them off!
Number 2 - Make Eye Contact
Eye contact is one of the most basic, natural
ways to show interest in a person - particularly
if you’ve never spoken before.
All you need to do is lock eyes for a few
seconds, then give a confident smile as you
slowly look away.
Repeat this a few times, and be sure to pay
attention to their response.
If they are look at you as often as you look
at them, you’ve definitely got their interest!
Number 3 - Introduce Yourself
It can sometimes be a bit tricky to approach
people - especially if you’re a shy person.
You may have a fear of being rejected.
But think about it this way: they’re either
interested in you, or not.
So you might as well take the risk and find
There’s no need for cheesy pick-up lines
either - simply introduce yourself, and ask
how they’re doing.
And if they don’t show any interest, just
smile and move on.
Number 4 - Mind Your Posture
Posture is an important aspect of flirting.
The way you hold your body, says a lot about
your confidence - affecting how attractive
you come across to others.
So pay attention to how you’re moving your
body, and be sure to maintain good posture.
Number 5 - Be Yourself
Do not pretend to be someone you’re not.
If you deceive the person you’re trying
to attract, it will be more difficult to connect
with them, because eventually they’ll realize
that you created a false persona in order
to impress them.
So don’t fake it.
Just be the very best version of yourself.
Number 6 - Leverage Common Ground
Finding something in common with the other
person is an instant conversation starter.
Be it a mutual friend, where you grew up,
where you went to school, or anything else.
And if you can’t find even one single thing
in common, don’t worry!
You can talk about anything you find interesting,
and use it as a way to get a conversation
Just keep it light.
Number 7 - Use Props
A prop is an accessory that makes a personal
statement about you, and it can be a great
A prop can be anything: a book, a cool gadget,
unusual jewelry, and so on.
Props tend to work really well, because they
provide something tangible to talk about,
instead of some random topic.
So find something that’s worthy of attention.
Number 8 - Move Closer
A really easy way to let someone know you
like them, is to move in closer to them.
You don’t have to be uncomfortably close
- just close enough so that you can talk without
having to raise your voice.
The secret is to position yourself close,
without seeming intentional.
Then, after a short while, try to make yourself
For example, if you’re at a gathering with
friends, pretend you’re going to get a drink
while making sure the other person sees exactly
where you are going.
If they follow you or unexpectedly show up
near you a few times, you can bet they’re
Number 9 - Tease Them Playfully
Another great way to show someone that you
like them is by being playful.
Tease them about something; perhaps their
choice of drink, or even something they just
shared with you - like a funny story.
Pay close attention to their reactions.
Does the person seem relaxed?
Do they smile a lot?
Do they stare at you?
Just make sure you don’t overdo it.
And keep in mind that there’s a very fine
line between teasing and being offensive.
Don’t make them feel like you’re judging
or trying to hurt them in any way.
Tease in such way that they’ll know you’re
joking and you’re actually interested.
Number 10 - Don’t Beat Around The Bush
If you’re in college or high school, you
may have a lot of time to wait and see if
your crush is interested in you; but the older
you get, the more forward you need to be.
It’s important that you let people know
you’re interested in them, and it can be
You can make jokes about how you’re flirting
with them, or find some other ways to let
them know of your ‘more-than-friendly’
Number 11 - Compliment The Unexpected
The best compliments are those that are unique,
and have an element of surprise.
The more specific your compliment, the better.
Just be sure that your compliments are honest
For example, if the person you’re flirting
with has a nice sculpted physique, compliment
them on something different and unexpected,
like: “I overheard you talking about landscape
photography; you sound like an expert.”
This way, you don’t give the same old compliment
they probably hear all the time.
Number 12 - Focus Between The Eyes And The
Maintaining focus between the eyes and the
lips, is one of the best ways to let someone
know you’re interested not only in WHAT
they have to say, but HOW they say it.
Look at their lips when they talk, then glance
up at their eyes and give them a slight smile.
If you want to step it up a notch, couple
this with a slightly open mouth.
It’s even more effective!
Number 13 - Subtle Touching
The keyword here is ‘subtle’ - you don’t
want to seem like a creep.
Sit next to the person you like and make your
legs or shoulders touch subtly, while keeping
the conversation going.
Act as if you didn’t notice this happening.
The point is to make them think that you didn’t
do it on purpose, it just happened and you
feel comfortable with it.
Number 14 - Ask Questions
Make sure you actively listen to what the
other person is saying; give them your full
attention and ask questions.
Asking questions - in general - is an excellent
way to indicate that you’re interested.
It’s also important to be attentive to the
other person’s feelings.
If they’re excited, share their excitement.
If they’re talking about something more
serious, adjust your tone as well.
Number 15 - Be Witty
If wit comes naturally to you, feel free to
add it to your flirting strategies.
However, keep in mind that it’s important
to avoid overly sarcastic comments and cheesy
lines - as they can come off as weird and
just plain awkward.
Humor is attractive when it’s natural and
actually makes the other person laugh.
And if they don’t laugh at your jokes, they
simply might have a sense of humor that’s
different than yours.
In which case, finding another flirting strategy
may be the best option.
Number 16 - Avoid Getting Drunk
If you flirt when you’re drunk, there’s
a pretty good chance that you’ll end up
suffering from “beer goggles syndrome”
- as people tend to appear WAY hotter after
a “few too many” drinks.
You don’t want to wake up the next morning
completely regretting your actions, do you?
An overindulgence of alcohol not only influences
your ability to make good decisions, it also
messes with your ability to flirt well.
When you’re drunk, even your best jokes
come off as sloppy.
It’s best to refrain from having too many
drinks while flirting, so you can avoid embarrassing
The good thing about flirting is that it can
be completely adaptable to your personality.
If you’re super funny, use it to your advantage.
If using props gets you results, then just
go with that.
Experiment and figure out what works best
Yes, it may take some time to get the hang
of flirting successfully, and you will probably
go through some rejection.
But remember, the ultimate goal is to find
the person that’s right for you, so just
keep at it!
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Did we miss anything?
What are some flirting techniques that have
worked for you?
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