Here we are on another live doing this at
a very different time.
And I usually do it in a little afternoon
session here, and going to be answering your
questions, but also going over some really
good stuff gonna be talking about the more
natural way to be meeting women.
And here's the thing, I know that a lot of
guys, they've been learning how to meet girls.
And there's a lot of pickup artists out there,
there's a lot of pickup material out there.
So I kind of wanted to give you an idea of
how you could do this, in a more natural sense,
a more natural way.
And what I mean by that is doing it in a way
where you don't have to feel like you're someone
completely different, right?
A lot of people, they get information online
about how to meet women, and they learn what's
called routines, or pickup lines, they learned
all this stuff, like it doesn't feel like
So it feel like they're kind of putting on
So I wanted to go over some ideas for you
of how you could do this in a more natural
way that makes it feel more like yourself.
However, I will say this, and this is very
important to, to understand here is that no
matter what, if you're trying to improve at
something, you're going to change, right,
there's going to be a change.
And it's inevitable, it's inevitable that
you are going to become somebody different.
But I what I like to say is this, you're not
going to become someone completely different,
you're going to become an upgraded version
of yourself, you know, so it's like, you know,
when you have your, you have your iPhone,
right, or any kind of phone that you have,
and you get the new operating system, or maybe
you have whatever phone you have, you know,
there's software updates, it's still the same
phone, but some of the shots has changed a
little bit, it's upgraded itself.
So that's kind of like you working on this,
you're becoming you 2.0.
So you might not be the exact same person,
as before, you know, you might be someone
who's going to be a little bit different,
because you've improved, but it's still the
same you if that makes any sense, I get a
lot of people who actually sign up for coaching,
because they've seen some of my material.
And they see that the material that I give
to you is not about changing who you are,
it's about staying true to who you are, but
becoming the better version of yourself.
So you just actually naturally become a more
So say, Hey, what's up really quickly, everyone
in the chat room?
What's going on?
I know, we have a few people here, not as
many normally as we usually do, and usually
do the night time.
But it's cool to do it at different times.
I'm gonna start doing it now, more often on
So try to tune in here Tuesdays in the afternoon
12 o'clock central time around there.
And, and yeah, we'll, we'll go over some cool
stuff and answer questions.
But back to what I was saying was, you know,
what we're gonna be going over is how you
do this in the most natural way possible.
But again, still understand that you are going
to be, you know, doing things that are going
to seem like you're kind of I should say manipulating
not a girl, but manipulating kind of yourself
in a way that doesn't feel like you, it's
not going to feel natural, but change doesn't
ever feel natural changes, always a little
But that's what I want you to do, I want you
to be able to work on that change, that's
the most important.
So, okay, let's get into it.
Again, any questions you have, you can put
it in the chat, and I can answer them also
gonna be taking calls today.
So we'll take some calls, by the way, my voice
is, if you watch my stuff a lot, listen to
my podcast, it doesn't sound the same.
Just have a crazy little cold that I'm getting
But still bare with me.
Okay, really quickly, before I get into some
of the cool material, www.coachedbytripp.com.
That is down below.
That is for you to go to apply for coaching.
Coaching is available to you, if you're interested
in doing coaching, receiving coaching from
me, one on one, we can do that.
And coaching is something that helps you get
to the next level.
So if you're having trouble doing this on
your own, you can always apply for coaching
and get help from me, we work together either
in person, I also have packages where we can
work together on the phone as well.
So go to www.coachedbytripp.com if you want
to learn more about that and apply.
And we can see if you're a good fit.
So let's move forward the natural way to pick
up women to meet women, here's the best way
to do it.
Okay, I'm going to give you kind of like,
almost like a little bit of a to do list here
of like how we can do this in the complete
natural way possible.
So you seem like yourself.
So here's what I want you to do, I want you
to, I want you to pick one or two nights a
week to go out.
And by the way, what I'm going to tell you
to do, it's not going to be easy.
But I'll make it as easy as possible to understand
it's very scary to do what I'm about to tell
you that you're going to do.
You got to go out, you got to go out without
drinking any alcohol whatsoever.
Because when you drink alcohol, you're absolutely
not going to be a natural at this.
And this is not gonna be natural for you.
I sang to a coaching client yesterday that
we don't have you drink any alcohol, when
we're coaching you, I don't want you to go
out and do approaches with women and men drinking
And so the deal with that is this is that
if you're going out, and you're trying to
meet women, and you learn how to do it with
alcohol, guess what's going to happen when
you finally see a woman that you want to talk
And let's say you're not doing it with some
sort of like event or nighttime activity or
at a bar, and you're all alone, you're not
with friends and you see a queue called the
Are you going to go all the way to your car
and take a shot of jack daniels?
No, this is not sponsored by jack daniels.
Is that what you're going to do?
Because that's what's going to happen, you're
going to train yourself to learn how to meet
women with alcohol.
And you're never going to learn this the natural
So my goal for you if you want this to be
lucky, ultimate skill of being able to meet
attractive women ultimate is to do this without
Here's something else going out doing this.
And this is going to blow your mind a little
bit to do it without friends.
Going out completely alone.
The only exception is if you are going out
and you literally have a friend that is going
off at the exact same reason is you meaning
he's going out specifically to not drink to
go talk to women to practice the approach
to practice talking to women, because that's
what I want you to be doing your you have
a mission to go out, not drink, talk to as
many women as you can.
And I'm going to give you some tips on how
to do that, by the way, but doing that.
And that being your main focus, not going
to party not going to hang out at a new club
or new bar, or just to walk around town to
get some exercise.
But that's the only exception.
I found that a lot of guys don't have guys
like that in their life.
But the good news is, that's okay, you have
that cool bonus
but going out alone is going to build this
skill to a level that you never even thought
that you could build to.
Because it's going to force you to be able
to just go out and talk to women, and you're
not going to have the crutch of talking to
That's the downside of going out with friends,
even if they're into it, right.
Like even if you go out with friends who are
into meeting women learning how to meet women.
The downside is that, you know, you can easily
just sit there and talk to your friend for
a long time and not actually do the approach.
Alright, someone's my mic is a little low,
I'm going to turn it up a little bit.
Or maybe just talk a little bit louder.
Let me know if this is okay.
We'll move the camera a little bit too.
So what I'm saying is we're going out doing
it sober, whether it be day, whether it be
night, or doing this without having to drink.
Like I said, alcohol without having to be
with any friends.
Obviously, to go without saying said no alcohol,
no drugs, nothing like that you want to get
a cup of coffee, that's fine.
This is going to be the most natural way to
Instead, what do I get kicked out of the place,
we're not buying alcohol, you won't get kicked
All you gotta do is just get a water at the
bar and tip your bartender.
You can even get a club soda and align it
looks like a drink, so people won't bother
you or ask you about it.
And then tip your bartender like five bucks.
And then that's it, no one's gonna kick you
out, he'll be fine.
I'll answer your super chats in a moment.
Just keep on making the super chats Roland
and I'll get to them after we get through
some material here.
Just know that we're going to do some super
chat questions, I'm also going to take your
questions here on live as well.
So again, natural way to do this, you are
going to build this skill so well, because
I want you to be trained to get to the point
where if you see a girl in any situation,
anytime you're going to be trained in going
up to them and talking to them.
Because you're used to doing it because you
aren't doing with alcohol you aren't doing
That is going to be the ultimate ultimate
The tough part to get to that is you're going
to have to, you're gonna have to force yourself
to go out and do this.
Of course coaching helps, right?
That's what I help guys with when it comes
But either way, you're gonna have to force
yourself to do this on your own.
It might take a little bit, it might take
a little while.
But you will get to the point where you're
so much better, because you're doing it in
the hardest way possible.
There's a lot of crutches out there that people
rely on, I want you to rely on no crutches
So also, let's talk about this for a second.
Let's talk about, like, how are you going
to have natural conversation?
I know a lot of guys are very concerned about
what to say how to open up a conversation.
How are you going to do this well, without
having to learn, excuse me.
Without having to learn routines, without
having to learn any kind of cheesy pickup
lines, like I think it's okay to have an opener.
I'll give you a couple of opener ideas.
Some opener ideas are just going up and saying
Hi, I'm Tripp are you from?
And then whatever city you're in, that's a
Another opener is I call wearing holding doing
you can comment on something that they're
They're holding or they're doing.
That's really cool, too.
You can do that wearing holding doing you
can go up and you can give the the you know
Hey, sorry over here.
You look nice.
I'm Tripp are you from Chicago.
Those are some openers.
Those are very natural openers.
Very easy things.
Even if a girl's heard that before she's not
going to call you out on it.
That's the beautiful part about it.
He's a stupid pickup line.
You know, he uses like a dumb cheesy pickup
And she's heard it before.
Or like a common opinion opener, like guys
will look up opinion openers, like getting
a girl's opinion on something.
It's like, you don't really care what their
This is not natural at all.
It's a bunch of BS.
And if she's heard that before, she's instantly
going to reject you, because she's gonna think
in her head.
So some guys too shy to come up to me us just
any kind of normal conversation starter.
And he's using some stupid opener.
It's like, why would you want to be with a
guy who's so on original, I can't a guy does
come up and start a conversation with her.
That's what I want you to do.
Again, we're talking with the most natural
way to do this, the natural process here.
If you have any questions on this, you can
ask them in the chat.
And by the way, we'll be doing some some calls
So we answering any calls that you guys have,
you can call a number I'll put it on the screen
in just a little bit.
So now we're going out sober without friends
using the natural kind of easygoing non pickup
line pickup line.
I just I like to just call it opener, right?
It doesn't need to be called a pickup line.
Can this be called going up to women and introducing
yourself with an opening statement?
lot of guys get really obsessed.
One of my clients who I was recently talking
with you might be you're watching now gonna
have to call you out.
got really obsessed with the opener.
Like really obsessed?
Like, okay, well, what's something else I
Well, it's something else I can say.
It doesn't matter what you say.
And I'll explain to you why.
Because whatever you end up saying, they're
not going to remember what it is that you're
They're not gonna remember it at all.
They're going to remember that a guy came
up to you and started a conversation with
A guy came up to them and had a conversation.
That's all you're going to remember.
So you don't need to focus on the opener.
The most important thing is where do you go
from the opener.
Okay, and I'll teach you how to do that right
Here's the most natural way to get a conversation
And again, this might be repeating myself,
you've been watching some of my stuff, or
you have my hooked program.
I've talked about this a lot, but I think
it'd be a good recap on how to be a have natural
So natural conversation is going to be you
using an opener again, maybe holding wearing
doing that is commenting on something that
she's holding, something that she's wearing,
or something that she's doing in the moment,
with you see you're out and about in the day
or at night, whatever.
And then from there having a conversation
about that, or if you're not doing the holding,
wearing doing going up to her and saying,
hey, you look nice are you from?
And then the city Are you from Chicago?
And then continuing conversation from there
by listening to what they're saying.
So she's like, yeah, I'm from Chicago.
Let me guess you grew up in the suburbs.
Actually, hold on, let me guess again, you
grew up in Naperville.
And she'll say yes or no, she's like, No,
I've never know, I didn't grow up there.
I grew up here.
Okay, let's go.
What was that like?
So you're just going to be talking to her,
based on what she's saying and what you guys
are talking about.
That's gonna be you listening to the conversation,
extremely a word from what she's saying.
And then continuing conversation from there.
So again, listening to what she's saying and
extracting a word from what she's saying.
So you listen, you take a word, and then you
expand upon it.
So if you're like, Hey, you know, let me ask
you from Naperville.
And she's like, No, I'm not.
I'm from Arlington Heights.
These are just suburbs of Chicago.
And you'll say, oh, Arlington Heights.
And then that's your word that you're extracting,
you're going to either ask a question about
it or make a statement about it.
Ask a question, make a statement about it.
And so then that continues the conversation.
Now, you may be thinking will trip?
What if she doesn't give me anything to work
What if she doesn't have anything? to respond
What if she's really shy?
What if she's really quiet?
How do you naturally continue a conversation
Well, the best way to do that is for you to
be able to have a couple of topics of conversation
that you enjoy talking about.
So whenever it is what's on your mind, and
under sounds kind of like really, I can do
that this will work.
Test it out.
What's on your mind, what's going on in the
What are you even thinking about?
What are your actual opinion?
questions that you have what you want an opinion
What's recommendation you want somewhere?
Again, these are not opening lines I'm talking
to you right now, you very clear here.
These are not opening lines.
These are topics of conversation that you'll
use, if you don't end up getting to the point
where the conversation is naturally continuing.
Because sometimes it can die.
And that can happen.
You'd be surprised.
In order to get a woman attracted to you,
sometimes, all you need to do, all you need
to do is continue a conversation long enough
to show her that you're a cool dude, that
you're somewhat interesting that you're normal,
you're not creepy that you're not weird, that
you can hold a conversation you can hold maintain
And you can get through a conversation without
it being a struggle for you.
And again, it's okay that this might be really
tough for you.
You might say, like trip, how am I going to
You're asking me to go out sober alone, talk
to girls use these openers that you said use
this conversation continues and then ask her
Whoa, that's intense.
And you're right.
It's very intense, it's very hard.
This is the way that I learned how to do it.
This is the way that I teach my coaching students
how to do it.
And this is the best way to learn it.
It's kind of like this, the best thing I can
kind of compare this to I use the analogy
of working out a lot.
So if you're working out, just missed on my
hair, there we go.
If you're working out and you're using, like,
there's different ways to work out, you can
use like the mission genes that assist you.
Okay, or you can, you can use free weights.
I don't know if you know too much about working
But either way, you know, there's been a lot
of information being said, out there in the,
in the working out universe in the fitness
universe, that it's better to use free weights
like dumbbells, or the Olympic barbell without
So it's a free weight.
And it's better to do that then use like an
So let's say you're squatting with a big dumbbell,
a big Olympic barbell on your back with weights,
right, and then you squat up and down.
That versus using that machine where the bar
is attached to the machine, and it's kind
of like attached to it so you can move up
and down easier, they say it's better to use
Or do this exit, sorry, do this exercise without
doing the assistant machine.
Because when you use just the Olympic barbell,
your training more muscles in your body to
become stronger, because you have to use more
muscles to balance it and make sure that you're
not going to drop it.
Whereas the assistant machine might be better
for people who are older, or who have, you
know, issues with their joints or something
But people still who are able to work out
and not injured at all, we use those machines,
that's not good.
You're not training yourself to become the
strongest version of yourself, you can be
okay, that asst machine is equivalent to going
out with friends, drinking alcohol, using
pickup lines, using routines, you're not going
to train yourself to be the strongest version,
in terms of being the most attractive.
So hope that makes sense.
So I'll give you some tips here in terms of
how to do this naturally.
A lot of guys have trouble with this, if you
are having trouble with this.
And you think you can't do this on your own,
I have coaching available to you.
As you can see right here, there's a link
that goes to coach by trip calm, that's a
link to apply.
If you get accepted, because I got a lot of
applications that will sift through them myself,
I will actually email you or text message
And then we can get on a phone call and see
if coaching is a good fit for you.
And we'll go through an entire a specific,
personalized approach for you like a customized
plan for you to go out and start approaching
and me coaching you through the whole through
the whole process to make this happen.
Okay, so if you want coach, excuse me, sorry,
guys, just getting over a sickness.
But if you want this to work for you, and
you want this to be part of your lifestyle,
and you want to do the natural way, good coaching,
let me help you apply, and we can get you
Okay, so go to www.coachedbytripp.com and
in the meantime, I'm going to answer some
And I'm going to put the phone number on the
screen the phone number is for you guys to
And I can answer your questions.
So if you have any questions, go ahead and
call in, call the hotline.
And I'll answer right now.
First, someone to the Super Chat, they said
this dating game change over time.
If you do it the natural way the know it doesn't
change over time.
There's a lot of like new theories and methods
that have come out over the past 20 years
since this got really more brought to the
But I think the best way to do this is to
do it the natural way.
And I just give you an outline of how to do
it so you can become a natural at this.
It just takes a lot of practice over and over
and over and over and over and over again
in order to get used to going out approaching
without alcohol etc.
All right, we got a caller, you're on the
air What is your name age and where you calling
Hey, so Okay, so my name is Vince.
Everyone's doing man.
How are you?
I'm doing well.
It's a pleasure to get on the phone with you.
Hell yeah, man.
Okay, my name is Vincent cap of jelly.
And I'm 18 years old.
And I'm calling from Montreal, Quebec.
Wow. from Canada.
Well, yeah, going on up to today.
I'm just like outwork and I saw the TripAdvisor
had some time to legends think from free time
I saw you were on the air on YouTube.
clicked it had to watch I've been I've need
to watch your live streams because I've been
listening to the podcast.
And I've been seeing that you've been taking
like, the live streams and putting them into
So I had to get on and see what it was all
I'm glad you're here.
What's your question?
What can we answer for you today?
So the question is, I was kind of like meeting
And I, like started talking to her.
And we kind of like, met up with friends.
And she had just gotten out of a relationship.
Like, I discovered that she just bought a
relationship, like a week prior to meeting
And, you know, I wasn't trying to do anything
crazy with her, I'll just kind of like, you
know, every once a while, maybe wants to check
up on her and be like you What's up, like,
how you doing?
You know, start some like conversation with
It seemed like she was interested.
But then what had happened is that when I
tried asking her out on a date, she sent me
a snapchat saying, she sent me a snapchat
saying that, look, you know, I just got out
of a relationship.
And I'm not like, you're nice, and you're
But I'm not really looking to do anything
So like, I was thinking, like, what should
Like, I don't know, is there?
Is that just an excuse?
Or is there still a way I can kind of like,
because it seemed like she was initially interested.
So I'm just kind of like wondering, what's
the best route to like, what should I Where
should I go from there?
So you're saying that she's interested, you
think she's interested.
But she said that she's not interested?
Because she just got out of a relationship?
And I think she's interested in because the
reason for my assumption that she might be
interested, is because like, she was telling
me like, okay, going by my Instagram and like,
comments on my pictures, like, I don't know,
she was asking me to do all this weird stuff.
And I don't know.
And honestly, I feel like she was saying that,
to get your explanation Joey's, again, like,
he directly messaged me, and he's like, hey,
back off from my girl.
But they had broken up a lot of weird shit
happen like that.
Well, here's, here's my theory here, here's
my thing when it comes to this, okay?
When it when it comes to, you know, women
who just got out of a relationship, or women,
you know, and then there's just so much drama
involved in this, right, she just got out
of a relationship.
So she's getting over that.
So she's going through all the emotional stuff
with that, then he got her ex boyfriend is
potentially coming after you sing, stay away.
And, of course, you're you're like younger,
you know, because you're 18 years old, you're
dealing with a lot of amateur people.
And so you kind of train yourself to be in
a scarcity mindset, I bring this up a lot,
especially on the lives like you train yourself
to be in a scarcity mindset when you're just
going for women who are not the best ones
to be going for.
And it's just not a good idea to be going
for someone who just got out of a relationship,
because they're dealing with all of that.
And they're very emotional right now.
And so you want to get someone who's like
really ready for something.
And by the way, she couldn't say that she's
ready could but you might be lying.
Now, if you don't care about any of that,
and you want to go for it anyways, what you
need to do is be a little bit more direct,
a little bit more dominant.
So instead of just instead of just being more
reactive to what she's saying to you, like,
Oh, I just got out of a relationship, Bernadette,
telling you what to do or like things, just
ignore all that and be more direct and say,
Hey, listen, yeah, I don't care about that.
Let's go out next week, like, let's go grab
while you're 18.
So you can drink or maybe Canada, you cannot,
Okay, so you'll grab a drink or grab a coffee,
say, Well, whatever.
Let's just do this.
And you'll just kind of director anyways,
ignore what she's saying.
And then go for it.
My advice is I would stay away.
So make sense.
So what I did yesterday, as I had podcaster,
I'm like, Look, let me try doing something
So I called the yesterday and I was talking
to her and I like, talk to her about the situation
like, you know, your boyfriend directly messaged
And she was like, Yeah, I know, he had, like,
told me about it.
And then I was like, and then I told them,
I told like a kind of like a different move.
And I said, You know what, like, I hope you
guys are able to, like, work this out.
And when I said that to her, she was like,
Whoa, she was like, What white saying that?
It's like, Why are you saying that?
You hope we work this out?
And like, I don't know if that was like a
good move or like, are you saying that basically
made her chase you a little bit more?
Because you're showing her that you don't
Yeah, I took some of your advice on that,
you know, say like something that's not really
So yeah, I mean, basically, that's, that's
That's my answer, man, I would honestly, I
would stay away.
You know, I would just move on and try to
find some other women and don't let her dictate
this and play games, I would just completely
leave all together.
And then a month, especially it will happen
if you don't go for it.
She doesn't end up dating anyone else.
And in a month, or in the next four weeks.
You don't really go after her.
You don't talk to you don't respond to her.
She'll probably end up being like you more,
because you haven't been around.
And then that point be better than data then.
Then do it right now.
So there you go.
Sounds good trip.
other girls in the pipeline.
So work on that.
Thanks for calling in appreciate here and
All right, hotline is open my friends.
When I do this, on my usual time, which is
Wednesdays at like 6pm 7pm.
What ends up happening is I get so many calls
the always this one person who calls in over
and over and over expecting me to answer when
they can see that I'm talking to you right
here, but the line is open.
So go go ahead and call in.
And we'll go from there.
Someone said stay away from drama, he needs
an available normal girl.
That's what I'm saying.
You need an available normal girl who's not
going through all of the there's whether you're
breaking up with someone or your gut or you
got broken up with it's tough.
There's a lot of emotions surrounded by it.
So you want to let that person Well, you don't
have to wait for them.
That's all I'm saying.
But you know, that person needs a heel and
do their own thing.
You want to find someone who is been out of
a relationship for a while, like a serious
relationship with their dating or having little
know someone just dated someone for a month.
That's not a big deal.
But we have another caller.
Hey, man, what's up? you're on the air.
Where are you calling from?
What's your name?
What's your age?
Welcome to My name is Dominic.
I'm 26 years old from Baltimore, Maryland.
What's up, man?
How you doing?
I'm doing great.
How are you doing?
What's your question?
Okay, so about the first week of, I guess
like mid June, I match with a girl on Tinder.
Yeah, no tender, whatever.
She seemed normal.
She seemed, you know, great.
Everything was going fine.
went on a couple of days.
You know, we spent the night together, yada,
yada, yada, you know, all the good stuff.
And we talked about, you know, possibly, you
know, being like an item like being together
Well, then July 4, came around and asked her
all the, you know, like, what are you doing?
Do you have any plans or anything?
And then she just told me, she couldn't hang
I was like, Oh, you just, you know, have plans
with family and friends.
She was like, I just can't hang out.
So it's all it's kind of weird.
I was like, okay, whatever.
You know, I my friends, no big deal.
But then she never ever texted me.
So I thought that was like, kind of weird.
And then we start talking the day after?
And I was like, Yeah, I was, like, there's
life for us, you know, what do you do?
And she just said, you know, she hang out
And then she drank she had crabs.
I'm just thinking myself, like, Why couldn't
you just tell me that right away.
But you know, I kind of set off to the side,
maybe just, you know, whatever.
And then a week or two goes by, and then we
ended up just not talking like three straight
Something like, you know, what's up, you know,
it's like, they're an accent you just not
You know, they kinda like, you know, like,
What's your deal?
You know, what's going on?
I just kept like, avoiding the question.
And then I kept on avoiding What question?
Like, I can't like by couldn't like she talked
to me, like, you know, like, we were going
Everything was going great.
And then she just kind of went like Mia.
But you did you actually asked her why are
you talking to me?
Yeah, after that.
And she said nothing.
She Yeah, she didn't even like reply to me.
And then she texted me the next day.
So you know, like, hope you have a good day.
So it's kind of like bouncing around things.
And like, I'm kind of wondering like, Is this
like, maybe she just not ever an accident,
she just doesn't want to tell me.
Because one of my best friends and his girlfriend,
they actually were like, because I asked them
And they're like, that's kind of really odd.
So then they kind of like when search on her
I don't have any, because I like to stay away
from drama and all that stuff.
So I did like, I don't have social media anymore.
And they found out that on her Facebook page,
she actually was in a relationship.
So it was Facebook.
I mean, some people use it.
Some people don't change anything.
So I kind of wasn't like, too worried about
it, I guess.
But then it's like now we're not talking now
as he's telling me that she's just going through
So that's just me at like random times here.
I'm just going through some things right now.
So I'm kind of fit.
I'm kind of thinking to myself, and I want
to ask you, is this someone that I just like
need to drop?
Like, I just want to other goals, obviously.
But Should I just be like, forget about this
girl and just not to worry about her anymore?
because things were going great at first.
And that's kind of like weird took a like
a one at Well, she?
Is she in the relationship?
Is she dating someone right now?
He told me she wasn't.
But Facebook session?
But Facebook says that she is?
Yes, that's Yes.
And my friend said my friend and her his girlfriend
sent me a picture of it.
And it says in a relationship.
But I'm just kind of like, like, she's told
me she was single.
And she told me she doesn't like she's on
She has been cheated on, like, from kindness
wonder like, should I give her another chance?
Or should I have a sit down when she's ready
to talk and just like, talk about and give
her my take on but I think like what my feelings
are about this?
Like, how should I approach this the correct
Okay, I got an answer for you.
So, by the way, thank you for giving me a
lot of details.
Because all the details will be useful and
me being able to answer the question the best
of my ability.
so in this situation, really, in all these
different situations, but guys don't understand
is that you gotta really simplify this, right?
He a lot of people and it's normal, they make
it way more complicated than it has to be
You're thinking all these things?
Like, how you feel about it?
What should you say?
And should you call her and ask her and what
should you text her?
Really, you got to think about this?
In terms of what's the goal here, right?
Think of a little bit more logically, the
goal here is you're interested you'd like
to take her out?
And if she's single, you would like to take
her up, right?
That's usually the case.
So let's not guess, let's not try to, you
know, figure out what she's thinking or why
she's doing things and figure out where she's
We don't need that information.
The only information we need is, is she interested
in seeing you again?
That's more than half the time when you're
beginning the dating process, the information
that you need?
Is she interested in seeing you again?
How are you going to know if that?
Is the message to me yesterday, today?
I don't have any change.
I'm just going through stuff right now.
Okay, so don't you'll do is you'll ask her
So stop texting her and asking her like, Hey,
what are you up to?
And how's your day and just be like, hey,
let's hang out when you free next week.
And by the way, if she can't give you a clear
answer, on a day that she's free to hang out
with you or give you any kind of day, that
she would like to hang out with you based
off of you asking her, then she's not interested,
plain and simple.
Or she's like half interested half and half
And we don't want to deal with that.
She's it's black and white, she's going to
be interested in seeing you or she's not.
If she's not an she doesn't give you the clear
Forget her move on.
If she is great, go on that date, hang out
Then what I would do is I mean, you, you might
want to say?
Actually, no, actually, no, I was gonna say
this, as I'm kind of going through it in my
She's, I don't know what the deal with Facebook
is, we don't know, maybe she's in a relationship,
maybe that's an old relationship.
You're not even on Facebook.
So if you bring this up to her, which is about
to give you that advice, but I'm taking that
If you were to bring this up to her and be
kind of stalker ish, you're not even on there
and be like, weird to do that.
So let her tell you that.
So, you know, let's just believe her, Let's
Let's keep going on dates with her.
And if she continues to want to see you, she's
probably single doubted she is, you know,
it's rare that someone is going to completely
And that's the, you know, we started together
to this, that's what's kind of like, just
going through our mind, because it's like,
you know, we've left it together.
And it's like, Whoa, what, like, you know,
yeah, I doubt she's in a relationship.
I doubt it.
You know, I don't know, I don't know what's
going on Facebook.
And who knows if that's old, and who knows
what the situation is, you know, let her responses
to you hanging out with with you dictate what's
going to happen next.
So, you know, it's hard to know what's going
to happen next.
But if she does anything shady, or she doesn't
respond to you for a few days, or something,
you can call her out on it, not in a needy
Like you're not responding to my text message
of what's going on.
But if it's like, you guys have been dating
for a little while, and you guys have slept
with each other, you've been on like 567 dates
And something weird happens, you can kind
of be like, Hey, I'm curious, like what happened
there, depending on the situation.
You know, you don't have to completely be
in the dark, and then maybe something is happening.
Or you can ask her what's going on.
But for now, I would say just go into this.
But hold on.
I would also say, Didn't she say something
to you about?
She's going through something right now?
She said that?
And like, I didn't want to be needy and like,
be like, had my nose and her business?
Because it's not, you know, it's not right.
Because it may be something personal with
her family or something.
So I didn't really like, asked what the exact
problem was, I just was like, she was yesterday
or like, you know, and she told me, I'm just
going through some stuff.
My steel industry haven't changed.
I appreciate you being patient with me.
And I was like, you know this perfectly fine.
You know, whenever you want to talk about
it, you know, I'm here.
So you don't need to bring it up.
I mean, I don't think it's the worst idea.
Like in two days from now, you can be like,
Hey, I just, you know, want to check in like,
is everything is everything.
Okay, like you cool.
Like just saying that is not an easy, it's
not weird, like, show respond to that in a
way that will dictate what your next action
So she's like, you know, yeah, like, yeah,
I just don't really want to talk about it.
You can say, Okay, cool.
Just wanted to check in no big deal.
But if she's like, yeah, and then she starts
telling you what's going on.
And maybe this is her opportunity to tell
you, whatever it is, and maybe that has to
do with what's going on.
So I don't think it's a big deal to check
in and say to her, you know, hey, just curious,
like, how's everything going?
Like, is everything okay? with whatever you're
going through, like she's not gonna be upset
by that thing is nice of you to check in.
So I would do that.
Thank you so much.
I appreciate it.
And hope you and everyone else listening in
has a great and amazing week.
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it forget your crush after she refused to
go to the cinema saying she was ill?
No, you know, to forget about her, you can
just ask her out and see if she wants to do
But if she continues to say no, then she's
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Calum, I've seen you here before, man.
What's up, you said, Hey, mate, struggling.
My ex girlfriend of three years put a picture
up of her and her new boyfriend.
It's hit me hard, man.
Any advice to help get rid of this bad feeling?
Yeah, whatever is making you see this.
You gotta you gotta get rid of the opportunity
to even see this thing.
So please stop following her in social media.
So completely, completely stop looking at
someone social media, okay?
No more of that.
When you have an ex, she's dead to you.
She's no longer in your life.
So you need to forget about her.
And the best way to do that is to not contact
her and not be able to look at her pictures
or anything like that.
So completely have her out of your life.
Still taking any callers if you want to call
in and ask a question.
here to answer your question, or you can type
it in the chat.
You seem to have more callers at night though.
Because there's more people though.
There's a lot of people right now.
He said I have blocked her but I don't know
if I should text her and she has.
And she Have a nice life.
Um, well, I think that you should not text
You should let her go completely.
And don't try to have a nice life.
She has a new boyfriend.
She doesn't want to hear from me anymore.
You're being very rude.
Putting you in a timeout.
Anyone who's going to be rude and not be part
of the team air?
What's up, man? you're on the air.
State your name age and where you're calling
I'm 38 years old.
Where you calling from man?
Hey, so so we can't hear you.
It's very difficult to hear you.
She got to talk closer to the phone and enunciate
Okay, Is this better?
Yes, that's much better.
Okay, so I have an associate will be college
other partners and parents.
And we've been talking for about six months
now things have gotten really heavy between
But we haven't been able to get physical.
And I guess her biggest hang up that she's
expressed to me verbally is that she says,
I'm not asking that enough.
My hang up is it was issues to delegate me
to really express that masculinity, like I
have a thing where if I don't feel as if they're
in the state, with a woman I'm pursuing, I'm
able to pursue her more aggressively.
If I actually have that connection, then I'm
Or, versus, and more subtle about it.
So I think that's the big Hangout, because
she saw me associated with others with that
kind of be around masculinity.
And that drew her.
But then once we started getting closer, I
said today, what can I do to unlock that?
Bring it to that next level with her?
Well, it sounds like you know how to unlock
your masculinity because you were you were
seemingly aware that you've done it before
to attract her.
But you said that now you feel like you don't
want to be too masculine with her, because
you will scare her away?
Is that what you're saying?
Yeah, I wrote that in kind of like, a fear
of rejection sort of thing.
Like I scared her off.
If I'm too much, you know?
Well, we gotta be very careful here, because
we're using very vague terminology.
So what we're just saying the words masculine
But what does that mean?
So be more specific, like, what do you think
is going to scare her away?
Don't say masculine?
What are the things that embodied the masculinity
that you think you're doing?
That's going to scare her away?
I feel as if, like, right now we just speak
like, associate, but I feel like I'll be too
vulgar or too abrasive.
Or I'll say something better, like, Palmer
Okay, that's enough.
Or if I try to pursue her physically, how
are you guys friends?
Are you are you in the friend zone?
Are you dating?
I'm trying to see it as being in this friend
But she said, we're not.
We're not dating, though.
So she likes you.
But she just doesn't want to get physical
Have you tried to kiss her or get physical
No, I would try that.
She's probably telling you that you're not
Because you're not going.
You're not being sexual with her.
So you're probably this is the problem is
that guys are usually nervous, like you said,
you're kind of scared of that rejection.
And the only thing left with this situation
is you guys taking it to a more physical level.
So if as far as I'm concerned, you don't have
Like, either you go and you try to make a
And it can be very simple, doesn't even have
to be sex, it can just be kissing or go into
Just bring her in for a kiss.
Like you have to do that.
If you don't do that, you're never going to
be making a connection with her more than
And she's probably waiting for you to do that.
Which is why she's saying Oh, you're not being
So the thing is, is you have to do it, because
if you don't do it, it's not going to go anywhere.
And that's going to be logically in the same
You'll be if she rejects it, she might as
well do it.
So basically, I'm interested.
Hundred percent, you couldn't have said it
I couldn't have said it better myself.
All right, well, we have something going on
for the full moon.
So shoot my shot, see where it goes.
Full moon tonight, man, make it happen, do
And you won't regret it.
Because whatever the outcome is, it's going
to it's going to push you to either hopefully
move forward with her and if not move on to
someone else who's going to be interested
but six someone said of the text in the chat
six months move on, mate.
I kind of agree six months is a long time.
Like it is six months.
Should her get off the pot.
Make it happen.
Go for the rejection.
See what happens.
We have three years together, so it's just
not gonna happen.
Everybody out there.
You're welcome, man.
Thank you for calling.
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