Every single day, people
want to start new habits.
They want to start sleeping on time.
They want to start eating healthier.
They want to quit smoking all of
these things. Then what they're,
what they are essentially
is a collection of habits.
But if you don't understand your dopamine
reward system and how your dope Mein
reward system works,
you will ultimately end up failing
one very important key feature
of dopamine is that
dopamine chooses for you.
You never had the option in the first
place because dopamine will get released
into whatever feels better.
And from like I said,
from an evolutionary
standpoint, this makes sense.
This makes sense to want
to choose the thing.
That's going to be more
enjoyable, more pleasurable,
and obviously more filling. But nowadays,
because big corporations are
abusing your dopamine system,
it is making it harder for you to be
able to stick to good habits and get rid
of old ones. Now let's
say, this is you over here,
you are trying to reach your
goal. Whatever your goal may be.
Let's say your goal is trying to get a
new girlfriend or maybe trying to find a
new job, or maybe trying to find
a wife to have kids with it.
Doesn't really matter.
But what's going to happen is you're going
to have roadblocks along the way that
are going to stop you
from getting to your goal.
And these are going to be a collection
of bad habits that you've built up over
the years of always
giving into your dopamine
because you had no willpower,
but there is a trick to this because
there's two things that you have to
One is what we focus on becomes our
reality. And number two is going
to be removal of negatives.
So when we focus on something intently,
if we're focusing on
the goal all the time,
that's when you are going to win.
And how are you going
to focus on the goal?
How are you going to get
laser focused on the goal?
You have to remove all
negative things and the way
you do this is by essentially
removing all of the bad things,
all of the negative things in your life
that are going to stop you from reaching
this goal. And I realized
this, I realized this,
that I didn't want to watch TV more
than I would have rather slept in.
So what did I do? I got rid of the TV.
I didn't want to spend time on
Instagram instead of reading.
So I just got rid of Instagram altogether.
And what ended up happening was
because I didn't have these things.
I didn't have TV. I didn't
have Instagram. Now.
There's no way for me to fall
back and do these things,
do these negative things, because it
was a removal of the negative things.
So I just end up sleeping because
there's nothing else for me to do.
I don't turn on the TV. There's nothing
else to do. So I just end up sleeping.
I don't go on Instagram. If I, if
I'm looking for something to do,
I'll open a book because
there is no other option.
You have to remove these things.
You've heard of people
telling you that you have to,
in order for you to stop eating junk food,
you have to get rid of the
junk food in your house.
And that's exactly how you're going to
be able to eat the chicken over the pizza
every single day, you're going to
get rid of the pizza altogether,
and then you're going to only eat
chicken. That's what's going to happen.
You have to remove these
things. And that's the thing.
People keep introducing new things
into their life and it's becoming
harder and harder and harder
to stick to the positives.
So what I challenge you to do is
to go on what I call the great
purge and go through your house
and go make a list of all the
things that are negative in your life
and just begin removing them and making
it very difficult for you to be able
to access them. So, for example,
you might not get rid of your Instagram.
You might not delete
your Instagram forever,
but you might put website
blockers on your phone.
You might put website blockers on your
website, on your, on your computer.
And then that way you're never
going to be able to go on Instagram.
You're going to have to jump through
a bunch of hoops to go on Instagram.
And then, so when you go to be
able to jump through those hoops,
you have to first tell yourself
that this is going to be worth it.
Versus just being able to flip, open your
phone, press a button, and then boom,
you're on Instagram, distracting
yourself from reading,
and then ultimately distracting
yourself from your main goal.
Because remember what we
focus on becomes our reality.
And if we're constantly
focusing on these things,
we're never going to reach our goal.
You're going to stray away from your goal.
And you're going to end
up being in the pit.
The people who struggle the most are the
ones with the most amount of options.
They have the pizza, they have the
Instagram, they have the chicken,
they have the books, they have
the YouTube, they have the work.
It's the people who got rid of
everything else that are able to
stay on the path that is
going to be the number one
factor to success. There is one
more, very, very important thing.
And that is what gets
measured, gets improved.
And that's why I created a habit
tracking sheet for you to download.
It's doubt the downloads
available right below this video.
And what you do is you essentially
just track your habits.
You track your good
habits. So for example,
you might track that you want
to read every single day.
You want to read at least 25 pages
per day, and you want to track this.
If you track it, you're going to see,
be able to see where you
stand with this habit.
Because if you know, at the end of
the month that you stuck to the habit,
only 80% of the time,
we're only 60% of the time.
You know that that is something
that you need to work on.
Otherwise you're just
always shooting in the dark.
And whenever you end up failing this
habit for, let's say a few days in a row,
since you're not tracking it,
you just end up giving up and forgetting
about it until a few months go by.
And then you get reminded
that you wanted to read. Now,
this is where a lot of people fail.
But if you are able to track your habits,
if you're able to see it visually how
well you're doing throughout the month,
then it's going to be a
lot easier to stick to it.
And you're going to get
reminded constantly that this
is something that you want
to work on. Now, a lot of people,
they say that you should work
on only one habit at a time.
Now this is something that is just a lie.
You should not be working
on one habit at a time.
You need to create a lifestyle
change. It all works together.
If you end up going less on Instagram,
you're going to end up sleeping better.
If you end up not going, if you,
if you end up not eating pizza,
you're going to work better.
So all of these habits,
they work together and you have to
work on a bunch of them at a time in
order for you to be able
to see true success.
A lot of people that work on one habit
at a time when I worked on 10 habits at a
time, and I was B,
I was able to Excel much faster
than they were because I can
work on multiple habits at a time. And
that's the way that you should do it.
It should be a snowball effect.
It shouldn't just be working
on one habit at a time.
That is way too boring and way too
slow. So here's what I recommend.
Use the habit tracking sheet.
The download is right below
and start tracking your habits.
Inside that habit tracking sheet.
I wrote a list of eight habits that I
think are essential for you to start
working on right now. And they
include things like cold showers,
reading 25 pages,
not jacking off and only using
about one hour of media per day.
Amongst a few other habits that
I think are really beneficial.
And what I found were really beneficial
in my life and my client's life that
helped them the most.
If you focus on these habits and you
start measuring and tracking these habits,
then you're going to do really well
because remember what gets measured
gets improved. If you don't measure it,
you're not going to be able to
improve it. And that is very,
very important for you to remember
what gets measured gets improved.
So keeping in mind,
all of these things that dopamine
chooses for you and what we focus on
becomes our reality. And if
we focus on these things here,
we're going to straight away
from our goal. Every single time,
what gets measured gets
managed. So track your habits,
track your habits and see how well you're
doing with your habits at the end of
the month and make adjustments from there.
Otherwise you're just shooting in
the dark and it's going to be very,
And definitely don't just work
on one habit at a work on many,
many habits at the same time.
That way you can make a snowball effect
and you can make massive change that is
going to motivate you.
And the last thing is remove
the negatives from your life.
Completely remove them, get rid
of your phone apps on your phone,
get rid of all the distraction devices
that you have. Get rid of your TV,
get rid of your Netflix account. Or if
you can't get rid of it, then lock it,
make it hard for you to get to.
These are gonna be the things that are
going to separate the winners for the
people who just succumb to
their dopamine reward system.
And I can tell you that ever since
I started following these steps,
I have seen way more success in my
life. I've seen way more happiness.
I'm less depressed. I'm less anxious.
I have a clear head and it was
so worth it that I'm not just
pleasuring myself all the
time. Over the next few videos.
I'm going to teach you a few
things about how to work on
some of these habits,
specifically how to work on your
phone and how to work on your
because those are the two things that
are going to make you that are going to
give you the most bang for your buck.
It's your nutrition and your phone.
So I'll see you in those videos.